The Queer Librarian: News, Information, Resources

by Wong Kim Hoh
The Straits Times - Special Report, Sep 6, 2008

No sleaze, please. Straight guy just wants to give transsexual community a space for bonding

DANIEL Kaw deflates expectations of how a champion for Singapore's transsexual community should look.

The 36-year-old assistant project manager with a water engineering firm is stocky and burly. Not surprising, since he is a lion dancer and a certified wushu instructor.

Despite the ponytail, he is also 100 per cent male, straight and married. And a father to boot.

So why did he set up sgbutterfly.org, Singapore's only Web portal for the transgendered community in Singapore?

He grins as he sips his iced coffee in an Orchard Road cafe.

'Why do you do charity?' he volleys back.

'People think it costs a lot of money to host a Web portal. It doesn't, it costs me just $10 a month,' says Mr Kaw, who studied industrial electronics at the Japan-Singapore Technical Institute.

However, the youngest of three children of a businessman and a housewife forks out more than just money. He invests at least four hours daily to make sure the portal - which will celebrate its third anniversary next month - runs smoothly.

The portal has - among other features - news clippings, discussion forums and resource lists on transgender issues.

Its membership has grown from about 500 in the first year to about 1,600 now, and the site attracts between 40,000 and 80,000 hits a month.

Mr Kaw - who works on the site with three other volunteer moderators - also organises monthly outings for its members, as well as talks to raise awareness of transsexual issues.

His first encounter with a transsexual took place on an IRC channel called Singapore 30something more than 10 years ago.

'Her name was Victoria, and she was very open about who she was and the issues she faced,' he recalls.

Intrigued, he started talking to others on the Internet. He even met some of them.

He explains his fascination: 'They are human. Like everyone else, they want to live a normal life.'

He is used to people questioning his intentions.

'Even my wife, who knows what I do, once asked me if I was transsexual myself,' he says with a laugh.

'But she's supportive and has even met some of them,' adds Mr Kaw, who declines to reveal more about his family in order to protect their privacy.

The martial arts exponent decided that he would set up a Web portal for his 'sisters', the way he did for wushu and lion dance fans a few years earlier with sgwutan.com.

He started discussing the idea with his transsexual friends, including outspoken activist Leona Lo.

While there are several sites frequented by transgendered prostitutes for sexual hook-ups, there was none which properly addressed the issues the community faces or gave its members a space to bond and socialise.

'Before I set up the site, I spent at least four hours nightly over three months reading up on transsexualism issues,' says Mr Kaw, reeling off the names of world-renowned experts and researchers in the area such as American computer scientist Lyn Conway, and Associate Professor Sam Winter from the University of Hong Kong.

It was not all smooth sailing.

'I spent a lot of time initially throwing out and banning people who thought it was a sleazy 'ladyboy' sex portal,' he recalls grimly.

The portal has settled into a smooth groove now. A visit to the forums shows spirited, well-articulated discussions on issues such as whether transsexuals should pursue activism.

The founder observes: 'The focus of the portal has changed. When we started, we wanted to build awareness. Now, we want to reach out to the community.'

That's why he started monthly outings.

'I hope these outings will send out the message that they are not alone.'

Held mostly at Newton Hawker Centre or coffee shops around town, these excursions attract between five and 25 people.

'We occupied almost six tables at Starbucks in Plaza Singapura on one such outing last year,' says Mr Kaw, adding that one member wrestling with his sexual identity even took along his mother.

Mr Kaw and members of the portal will be celebrating its third anniversary next month with a party at a yet-to-be-confirmed venue.

The unlikely activist is gratified to see more new members coming into sgbutterfly.org to ask more questions.

As a moderator, there is one principle he abides by.

'I do not help them make decisions. I do not tell them if they should go for sex reassignment surgery, I also do not tell them if they are transsexuals or not.

'Those are issues they sort out with the experts.'


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